For everyone who has ever wondered about friends who hurt or reject them, this authoritative book provides valuable insights and on-target advice to help you understand and cope with problematical friendships. Based on extensive original research, When Friendship Hurts: How to Deal With Friends Who Betray, Abandon, or Wound You by Jan Yager, Ph.D. (NY: Simon & Schuster, Inc.) by sociologist and friendship expert Dr. Jan Yager demonstrates why, when, and how to let go of bad friends as well as how to develop the positive friendships that enrich our lives on every level (or emphasize existing good friendships).

Reviews of When Friendship Hurts:

Publishers Weekly:

"This valuable book will be a rescuer to all readers struggling to deal with an ailing friendship."


"Author, speaker, and sociologist Yager presents her second book on friendships (after Friendshifts), focusing here on identifying and dealing with its negative aspects, including betrayals, abandonment, and any other type of behavior that causes hurt. ...Although there are myriad books on friendship, this one is somewhat different in focus and should appeal to a wide audience. Recommended for all public libraries." (For the entire review, consult LIBRARY JOURNAL.)

Kay Brodie, Chesapeake Coll., Wye Mills, MD

"I really enjoyed When Friendship Hurts. Well-written and thorough, it is the best and most useful book on friendship that I've read in a long time!"

Don Gabor, author of How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends

"Friendships are now more important than ever. Being a busy entrepreneur doesn't leave me enough time to develop close friendships. I have Jan Yager to thank for helping me spot the pitfalls of an unproductive relationship before I put in the effort. Her book is a detailed look into the art of friendship. It will help you know who your true friends are."

Lillian Vernon, Founder and CEO, Lillian Vernon Corporation

"Developing meaningful friendships can be a difficult art, especially when dealing with the hurts and disappointments of past relationships. When Friendship Hurts is a thoughtful, insightful and thorough guide for dealing with problems and taking the quality of your friendships to the next level. I recommend it for anyone who wants deeper and stronger relationships with his or her friends."

Mark Sanborn, CSP, CPAE, President of Sanborn & Associates, Inc.

"If you think you know everything about friendship, you haven't read Jan Yager's When Friendship Hurts. She answers such questions as "Is there a cure for jealousy in friendship?" "Should your spouse be your best friend?" and "How do you recognize a false or "pseudo-friend"? The author has valuable advice about how to break off a friendship that hurts - including what to do when an ex-friend knows secrets about you that you don't want shared with the public at large."

Ruth Winter, MS, co-author, Brain Workout

About the author
About the book including reviews
Table of contents
Free excerpt
Buy the book
21 types of negative friends
Reading Group Guide
Featured links
Author's websites
Upcoming interviews or events
Contact Jan Yager
Online media kit
Foreign Rights
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When Friendship Hurts: How to Deal with Friends Who Betray, Abandon, or Wound You
Home Page | About the author | About the book including reviews | Table of contents
Free excerpt | Buy the book | 21 types of negative friends | Reading Group Guide
Featured links | Author's websites | Upcoming interviews or events | Contact Jan Yager
Online media kit | Foreign rights