For everyone who has ever wondered about friends who hurt or reject them, this
authoritative book provides valuable insights and
on-target advice to help you understand and cope
with problematical friendships. Based on
extensive original research, When Friendship
Hurts: How to Deal With Friends Who Betray,
Abandon, or Wound You by Jan Yager, Ph.D. (NY:
Simon & Schuster, Inc.)
by sociologist and friendship expert Dr. Jan Yager demonstrates why, when, and how to let go of bad friends as well as how to develop the positive friendships that enrich our lives on every level (or emphasize existing good friendships).
Reviews of When Friendship Hurts:
"This valuable book will be a rescuer to all readers struggling to deal with an ailing friendship."
"Author, speaker, and sociologist Yager presents her second book on friendships (after Friendshifts),
focusing here on identifying and dealing with its negative aspects, including betrayals, abandonment,
and any other type of behavior that causes hurt. ...Although there are myriad books on
friendship, this one is somewhat different in focus and should appeal to a wide audience.
Recommended for all public libraries." (For the entire review, consult LIBRARY JOURNAL.)
Kay Brodie, Chesapeake Coll., Wye Mills, MD
"I really enjoyed When Friendship Hurts. Well-written and thorough, it is the best and most useful book on friendship that I've read in a long time!"
Don Gabor, author of How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends
"Friendships are now more important than ever. Being a busy entrepreneur doesn't leave me enough time to
develop close friendships. I have Jan Yager to thank for helping me spot the pitfalls of an unproductive
relationship before I put in the effort. Her book is a detailed look into the art of friendship. It will
help you know who your true friends are."
Lillian Vernon, Founder and CEO, Lillian Vernon Corporation
"Developing meaningful friendships can be a difficult art, especially when dealing with the hurts and
disappointments of past relationships. When Friendship Hurts is a thoughtful, insightful and thorough guide
for dealing with problems and taking the quality of your friendships to the next level. I recommend it for
anyone who wants deeper and stronger relationships with his or her friends."
Mark Sanborn, CSP, CPAE, President of Sanborn & Associates, Inc.
"If you think you know everything about friendship, you haven't read Jan Yager's When Friendship Hurts.
She answers such questions as "Is there a cure for jealousy in friendship?" "Should your spouse be your
best friend?" and "How do you recognize a false or "pseudo-friend"? The author has valuable advice
about how to break off a friendship that hurts - including what to do when an ex-friend knows secrets
about you that you don't want shared with the public at large."
Ruth Winter, MS, co-author, Brain Workout